tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7340901893892759228.post2044005333426437568..comments2023-07-12T20:25:09.496+12:00Comments on mars 2 earth: Bed share but not if your drunk, stoned or tiredMarty Marshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07434142404949696557noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7340901893892759228.post-37129804499852973542009-05-08T20:24:00.000+12:002009-05-08T20:24:00.000+12:00Bed sharing and breast feeding set up a close atta...Bed sharing and breast feeding set up a close attachment between baby and parents - and this attachment leads to a healthy, well adusted child. Not to mention a strong bond between parents and baby that amongst other things can make that adolescent stage far easier. For some bizare reason the benefits of deep attachment between parents and baby are undervalued in my culture. For some absurd reason its far more normal to ignore the cues of a baby and leave them to cry and feed them four hourly. This is counter-intuitive, and just plain hard work. I bed share and love it. I call it lazy-parenting - because it's so much easier to roll over and breast feed and doze off to sleep, than get up, put on the light etc etc. How do you think our ancestors got on with out bedrooms and light switches? It's actually far more normal to bed-share around the world than many realise. In fact, I have read that more people share beds than don't! Of course you should never drink, or take drugs while your sleeping with a baby, that's just common sense. But I found I got used to my child's cues pretty fast when he was a new born, and there was absolutely no danger of me rolling on him as I just became too sensitive to him. If he made a noise, I'd wake up and do what ever needed doing. A year and a half on he's thriving - he's emotionally secure and happy. he's developmentally ahead of his age range. He's never sick. He's always laughing and smiling and he knows he's loved for who he is - not for some person I'm telling him he should be.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com